Tag Archives: queer issues

Asexual Ugliness

Let’s talk a little about being ugly. We’ll throw fat in too, since what I am particularly wanting to address is the “You’re just asexual because you’re ugly” idea, and with it the “you just can’t get anyone because you’re … Continue reading

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The Bleak Future of Asexuality

Of all the prompts for this month’s Carnival of Aces theme (The Next Generation), this was the one to catch my eye: “– How might things be different for the next generation of people on the ace-spectrum? How *should* they … Continue reading

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This Blog is No Longer About Asexuality

Once upon a time I wrote a manifesto on why I think the character, Clarissa Oakes, from the popular Aubrey-Maturin series, is an an example of an asexual female character . Since then, I have noticed in my blog stats … Continue reading

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Why I No Longer Identify as a Sex-Positive Asexual

I have decided to stop identifying as a sex-positive asexual. Why? Why not? Why would anyone identify as sex-positive in the first place? I won’t identify as sex-positive because there is no reason to. None. Having sex is an activity, … Continue reading

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Food, Sex, and Asexuality

I don’t like the food metaphors. Is it okay to say that? I know it seems like almost everyone likes to use hunger, or food, or doughnuts, or something along that line, to explain to non-asexuals what being asexual is … Continue reading

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Gender, Queerness, Trauma, and Disability: The Unfortunate Topics Rendered Off-Limits Due to Stereotypes and Ignorance

[Trigger warnings: short discussion of rape/sexual abuse in 4th-last paragraph; it will have an individual TW where it begins/ends as well. Post contains discussion of stereotyping and anti-asexuality.] So the Asexual Community Census 2011 has been finished! I for one … Continue reading

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A bit on internalized stigma and the duties of asexuals

[TW for discussion of identity policing and anti-ace attitudes] “Too bad Internet Asexuals have such a shitty track record when it comes to analyzing the cultural context that their movement exists in, otherwise they might have something to say about … Continue reading

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I think I’m sick of the concept of privilege

I’m sick of the word privilege. It’s turned from something that was supposed to help us to quickly illuminate the differences between a non-privileged group and a privileged group. If you’re from a non-privileged group you know the differences. You … Continue reading

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It’s Cold Out Here in the Rain

Why do some asexuals want the label “queer” for themselves in the first place? Well there are so, so many possible reasons and motivations for that that if I tried to examine them all I’d be here all night (you … Continue reading

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My Ace Realization and Coming Out to the World

Coming out. When people hear that phrase, they think of an action that happens all at once. A momentous, emotionally-charged revelation to friends and family. For some of us, gay, bi, pan, or asexual, it just doesn’t happen that way. … Continue reading

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