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Asexual Ugliness

Let’s talk a little about being ugly. We’ll throw fat in too, since what I am particularly wanting to address is the “You’re just asexual because you’re ugly” idea, and with it the “you just can’t get anyone because you’re … Continue reading

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The Bleak Future of Asexuality

Of all the prompts for this month’s Carnival of Aces theme (The Next Generation), this was the one to catch my eye: “– How might things be different for the next generation of people on the ace-spectrum? How *should* they … Continue reading

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“Was I Fired Because of My Asexuality?” Revisited

“Was I Fired Because of my Asexuality? Revisited” AKA in which I am automatically a cold, rude, liar because of my asexual orientation and mental illness. Two years ago, I wrote a post here Was I Fired Because of My … Continue reading

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This Blog is No Longer About Asexuality

Once upon a time I wrote a manifesto on why I think the character, Clarissa Oakes, from the popular Aubrey-Maturin series, is an an example of an asexual female character . Since then, I have noticed in my blog stats … Continue reading

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You ever just want to be done with it all?

I don’t update here very often. Some of that is  because of people’s attitudes on asexuality. You can see the sort of ignorant ideas people have it about it any time there is a new article on asexuality anywhere. It … Continue reading

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Why I No Longer Identify as a Sex-Positive Asexual

I have decided to stop identifying as a sex-positive asexual. Why? Why not? Why would anyone identify as sex-positive in the first place? I won’t identify as sex-positive because there is no reason to. None. Having sex is an activity, … Continue reading

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Why We Need to Be Asexin’ It Up Between the Pages

I have always thought that one of the most important goals for asexuals is to become proportionately represented in the media. On an average day in America, for those ages 15 and up, 2.8 hours a day will be spent … Continue reading

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Food, Sex, and Asexuality

I don’t like the food metaphors. Is it okay to say that? I know it seems like almost everyone likes to use hunger, or food, or doughnuts, or something along that line, to explain to non-asexuals what being asexual is … Continue reading

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Asexual Female Character: Clarissa Oakes

There is a serious dearth of asexual characters in media. Of the characters that can be considered asexual, few are explicitly stated to actually be asexual. (Really, there should be some kind of official scale drawn up—from definitely asexual, to … Continue reading

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Gender, Queerness, Trauma, and Disability: The Unfortunate Topics Rendered Off-Limits Due to Stereotypes and Ignorance

[Trigger warnings: short discussion of rape/sexual abuse in 4th-last paragraph; it will have an individual TW where it begins/ends as well. Post contains discussion of stereotyping and anti-asexuality.] So the Asexual Community Census 2011 has been finished! I for one … Continue reading

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